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Courage Beyond the Comfort Zone
Last week, I had one of those life-changing moments that you can't plan, polish, or predict. I was honored to speak at the Affiliated New Thought Network conference at Unity Village, surrounded by ministers and leaders I deeply respect.
Now, I've stood on plenty of platforms, but this one felt different. It wasn't just a talk, it was a dive into courage.
I began my presentation walking in from the back of the room—late on purpose—wearing a wig, heels, and rhinestone glasses. The audience laughed nervously at first, unsure what was happening. And then I asked them, “How many of you feel even a little uncomfortable right now?”
Hands went up. Some people hesitated. The energy shifted. I thanked those who were honest, and I thanked those who stayed silent—because both responses were acts of courage.
In that moment, I understood something powerful: authenticity always stirs discomfort before it awakens truth.
I shared about my first Unity Youth & Family conference, where kids showed up as their most authentic selves—goth, trans, gay, straight, shy, bold—each shining their own Christ light without apology. Watching them love without condition felt like witnessing heaven.
And yet, even as a minister, I still wear camouflage. Literally. I told the story of visiting my dear friend Rev. Martha Creek a few weeks ago, delivering a golf cart to her brother. I wore my camouflage hat, not for the sun, but to help me blend in. Around a big, burly country man, I felt that old fear rise—the one that whispers, “Don't be too gay. Play it safe.”
On the drive home, I realized the truth: that hat was my camouflage of courage—the barrier I use when I'm afraid to be fully myself.
It made me think of the Cowardly Lion from The Wizard of Oz. He roared loud to cover his fear, just as we sometimes perform strength while secretly trembling inside. But his journey taught us what courage really is: not the absence of fear, but the willingness to move forward with fear in tow.
As I looked out over that sea of ministers, I reminded them—and myself—that leadership requires us to step beyond polite safety into prophetic truth. To stop pretending we're fearless and start living faithfully.
By the time I reached the glitter-tossing finale (you know I can't resist a little sparkle), the room was on its feet in a standing ovation. I could feel Spirit roaring through the house. It wasn't about performance—it was about permission. Permission for everyone there to shine, shake, and show up as their truest selves.
That's what courage beyond the comfort zone really looks like. It's choosing authenticity over approval, love over fear, and inclusion over illusion. It's remembering that Spirit didn't make any mistakes when it made you—exactly as you are.
So wherever you are this week, whether you're wearing camouflage or rhinestones, take one bold step toward your authentic self. Because when we dare to be real, we invite everyone else to do the same.
And speaking of courage and authenticity, this Sunday we're blessed to welcome our beloved Raamesie to the Unity of Louisville platform. Her message about being worthy will remind us that the courage to love ourselves is where all transformation begins. Come ready to open your heart, lift your spirit, and celebrate the worthiness that lives in every single one of us.
With love, sparkle, and gratitude, Rev. Bobby Kyser (“Rev. Juicy”) 
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